“What is your price for the night?” – From ‘sexual strangers’ to ‘sexual citizens’ using ICTs
EROTICSi – which stands for Exploratory Research on Sexuality and ITCs (same as ICTis)- is a global project that attempts to explore how marginalized sections are using the Interneti and the ICTs, at large, to assert their sexual rightsi. The India chapter - #EROTICSIndia - was organised in Delhi recently by the Internet Democracy Project in collaboration with South Africa based APC and Point of View, Mumbai. Among the many outstanding sessions was one which involved experience sharing- participants were asked to describe their negative experiences online. One of the participants- Dhruv Arora, who works to curb gender ibased violence- said that he had a disagreement with someone on the Internet who then found his father (through Dhruv’s Facebook profile) and sent him messages questioning his manhood for giving birth to a “mangina” (man + Vagina). While I do not think that there is anything offensive about the word “vagina”, what is indeed troublesome is the mentality from where such labeling originates- the assumption that a “vagina” is inferior to a “man”. In India, if a daughter is too brave or too accomplished for her gender stereotype, she’s often called a “son” and that is supposed to be a compliment, an exalted statei of being! Following the same logiic, if a man speaks up for women, he is called a “vagina” so as to demean him. When Dhruv confronted the person, he shot back, “Don’t you know who I am? Isn’t this your phone number?” [with his correct phone number]. This example shows how “real” and how close to the offline world the Internet really is. The stereotypes that exist offline are simply reflected online.
A transgender woman described her horrible experience with online stalking which had very real and very dangerous consequences for her offline. A guy living in her area (who was also on Facebook) was very curious about her and was desperately trying to find out where she lived. He even approached a neighbourhood shop, where she would buy stuff, and asked them for her phone number. One night, while she was walking towards her home, the stalker suddenly showed up drunk with a few other friends and started harassing her. He asked her why she wouldn’t “look at him even though” she was “a transgender woman and all transgenders like boys” while holding her hand forcibly. Although the guy apologised after cops intervened, what happened to her troubles me at so many levels: She is a filmmaker and had given out her number to quite a few people. In another incident, a man called her up asking what her price is! She first tried to reason with him but to no avail. He kept insisting that “since she was a transgender and since she was into movies, she must be a prostitute, she must be having a price”. The truth is that this does not happen to transgender women alone. It happens to many women. The very fact that you are a woman and that you are actively networkingi with people online or offline means, to many “real men”, that you must be soliciting, must be a slut, a prostitute! Another thing that troubles me is the sense of entitlement that the “real man” feels. Even if she were, for the sake of argument, a prostitute she would still have the right to turn down a man she doesn’t like. He seemed not to understand disinterest. Also, if a woman is using a technology (Facebook, phone) the assumption is that she is soliciting. All this troubles me a lot.
Yet another woman who works against street harassment described how a middle-aged man used to land up at meetings or events called by her, pretending to be a well-meaning, nice family man. But he turned out to be a creep who would watch her from a distance and then text her. Due to a few of such incidents, she stopped giving away exact location of meetings/events and asked people to RSVP by emaili or phone before showing up. The idea is that well-meaning people will find the exact location by calling her up and others will get lost! Another young woman who is working on sex education said that people landed up at her parents’ house with threats (because she was understood to be destroying Indian culture!). While technology may be liberating for women professionals, several men are still struggling to come to terms with the fact that women are using technology for the advancement of their own life and goals and not necessarily for soliciting or attracting men (which in its own right is okay but not necessarily the case).
There is no dearth of examples. The Internet Democracy Project has conducted a study that looks at women who are abused online for simply having an opinion. Being a sexual rights activist or someone with a strong identity politics seems to take this abuse to a whole new level. How, then, does one using the Internet without exposing oneself to physical harm? It is both interesting and inspiring to see how sexual minorities and gender minorities (now also being called ‘Gender and Sexual Diversities’ or GSDs) are using the Internet and the ICTs to advocate for sexual citizenship- going from being ‘sexual strangers’ to ‘sexual citizens’. That the Internet facilitates sexual rights advocacyi to this level underscores the need to protect this agency at all costs. At the workshop, participants were given hands-on training on several tools which they can use to avoid being tracked or stalked. Other sessions will be covered in a series of blogi posts on the Internet Democracy Project website and these will explain how the Internet and ICTs have helped marginalised groups to reclaim their voice and their politics, how this space can shrink for them if online threats go unchecked, and how they can steer clear of threats, etc.
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